Sober Living Today! Blog

January 15, 2019
Staying clean is the top priority in everyone’s life once they find recovery. You can do your best to avoid temptation by working your recovery program. You know it’s important to stay away from people, places and things that tempt you. However, life is unpredictable. Sometimes you run into old friends at the grocery store or on the street. Other times, you may simply be forced to go to a work function and somebody may offer you a drink. You don’t have to tell anybody you’re in recovery if you don’t want to. After all, 12-step programs are anonymous because addiction still has stigma. Here are 25 ways to say no to a drink or drug. Practice them, just in case. Always be polite but firm. If a person tries to push you once you’ve answered, be prepared to walk away. If you’re at an event and feel pressured, do something else. “No, thank you!” “Not tonight, thanks!” “I am getting up really early tomorrow.” “Sorry, I quit” “Sorry, I don’t drink.” “I can’t, I’m driving.” “My doctor told me to quit.” “I promised my husband I won’t drink tonight!” “My wife would kill me!” (Clear it with her, first!) “ Thanks, but I’m the designated driver.” “Thanks for thinking of me, but I can’t tonight.” “No thanks! I’ve drank enough to last a lifetime!” “No thanks! I’ve been sober for a year now!” “No thanks. I don’t want to, tonight.” “No thanks, I’ve got an early meeting tomorrow!” “Sorry, it makes me sick!” “No thanks, I’ve got an allergy!” “I’m already dehydrated enough, not tonight!” “Thanks, but I make really bad decisions when I drink!” “I don’t drink, but thanks!” “Drinking really messes with my health.” “I can’t, I have a drinking problem.” “I’m too sleepy to drink tonight.” “I can’t – I’m on medication that makes it dangerous.” “No thanks! I’m quitting for a while.” There are many other ways to inform people that you quit drinking or using drugs. When you’re in a party scenario or random situation, it’s usually not the time for long-winded explanations. Saying “no” gets easier the longer you’ve been clean and sober, and after a while it comes naturally. Sometimes being creative is fun and helps difuse an awkward situation. Do what feels right for you and call your sponsor for guidance when you need it.
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November 27, 2018
How to stay sober during the holidays.

Develop a plan to protect your sobriety ahead of any holiday event and activity that could potentially trigger relapse to substance abuse. This may mean going to a Twelve Step meeting before or after the event, attending the festivities with your sponsor or a sober friend, or making sure you can leave the gathering at […]

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November 10, 2018
Transformational Breath!

At Sober Living Today We offer a Breath workshop every week and it has amazing results of energy shifts and relaxation.  We know there is more to this work, some teachers claim that it helps to resolve addictions!  We are excited to offer this in addition to the many tools of wellbeing that our sober […]

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July 1, 2018
Goat yoga!

Goat yoga is becoming more popular and an experience you may not want to miss!  Sober Living Today is planning a retreat this weekend with Yoga Bloom Wellness.  We will have the opportunity to sign up for a class with the Bear Valley Farm to be among the goats while we practice mindfulness and gentle […]

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January 24, 2018
Sober Living homes and 12 step programs!

Why does sober living homes encourage and mandate 12 step programs?  Simply because it works!  However, for as many different people sober in and out of the program, there is that many different experiences for each person in how they sustain their sobriety.  Not everyone that stays sober for a long time is involved in […]

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January 6, 2018
Sobriety is not just a new year’s resolution!

Many people seemingly get beat up by alcohol and drugs during the holiday, AA meetings get flooded with new faces of despair.  What happens after the new year?  That is a good question, some get sober but unfortunately many don’t.  The chances of someone staying sober and continuing to live in the same environment in […]

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January 9, 2015
Sober Living Home in Oceanside Ca

Sober Living Home in Oceanside Ca Oceanside is offering a tranquil place for women to recover from alcoholism. The Oceanside Sober Living Home for Women is a home that provides many positive programs in a firm, yet caring environment with Support and guidance. We provide Structure and boundaries with the freedom to choose. We offer Morning […]

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